Is it Worth The Time, Marrying Ephemerals?

Is it Worth The Time, Marrying Ephemerals?

Love (Two red hearts)If you’re blessed with long, long life, is it fair to marry a short-lifer?

Many of the species and races that populate fantasy and paranormal fiction are long lifers: vampires, of course, plus elves, demons, angels, and even author-invented species like my own Curandero, from the Blood Stone series.  Most of them can be killed, in usually unpleasant ways, but if they manage to dodge a violent end, then they effectively live forever.

Yet some of our favourite romance fiction features these long lifers marrying or having long term relationships (surely, the only definition of marriage that counts?) with short lifers. That is:  Humans.

Long Life in Science Fiction

Robert A. Heinlein, the classic science fiction author, wrote six or more very long novels that featured long lifers – in his case, they were perfectly normal humans who were extraordinarily long lived.

Heinlein tackled this question from about six different directions, but one novel in particular; Time Enough for Love, the wisdom of falling in love with and marrying an ephemeral (his name for short lifers) was the theme of the whole novel.  It just happens to be one of my top five novels of all time and not just because of this theme and the story that goes along with it.

So, even science fiction writers have considered this conundrum.

Long Life & Ephemerals in Romance

Romance novels don’t stop very often to consider the wisdom of a long-lifer committing to an ephemeral.  That’s because of a basic premise of all romance novels:  The guaranteed happy ever after conclusion.  Even happy-for-now endings indicate that there’s not too much left in the story world that will get between the lovers.

Oh…except for 80 years on one hand and several millennia on the other.

It’s difficult to write a true romance novel with a happy ending, if you deal in any way at all with the fact that one of the couple’s biological clock runs longer than the other’s.  To even acknowledge that one of the pair is going to live centuries longer than the other is to imply that the relationship ain’t going to last and no one is going to be happy ever after.

So most romance novels ignore the blight completely.

Fixing the Romantic Disaster

Vampire + human romances have the potential of turning the human into a vampire and thus extending the relationship that way.  So that makes vampire + human romances slightly more satisfying.

For other species that began as human (demons, some forms of angels, ghosts, for example), there is the potential to return to the human state, usually via paranormal shenanigans that resolve the couple’s problems and give them a true happy ending.

Not so for “natural” long lifers, like elves, or species that happen to be immortal right out of the gate.  For them and their human partner, there is no ninth inning miracle.  The human is going to age and die long before their lover is ready to let them go.

Ugh…who would want that?  Find out in Part II.


Wait is my most recent release – an MF vampire time travel historical-futuristic novella, and part of the Beloved Bloody Time series.  Buy Wait here in Kindle, and here for other formats.

This is Part I of a two-part Series.

Part I
Part II


2 thoughts on “Is it Worth The Time, Marrying Ephemerals?”

  1. But if short lifer or human goes to the Realm of the Elves or Fae aren’t they then going to live a longer life?

    1. Possibly, Robyn: It depends a lot on what magic “rules” the author sets up for that other-world. Not everyone gets to be immortal just because they’re rubbing elbows with them. Although I wish it were as catchy as that…and that immortals were real. 🙂

      If they’re in our bland, non-magic world, then all the problems, issues, and ethical decisions have to be faced sooner or later….



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